This week I was left pondering the problem of self motivation. I think all of us agreed this is one of the most difficult thing we face, even more so when life gets challenging. The professionals we see along the way can give us lots of tools that we can put into our "box", but although those tools are there and we can look at them, getting them out and actually using them can be just too much effort. So how do we overcome this problem?
Have more positive thoughts? be more confident? be more determined?. When I am going to some place I don't know I need some directions. I have to plan my journey look at maps ask directions etc so I get there. I don't just set off, imagine what would happen it I did. So why should my mental health journey be any different? I know I need to be realistic, set backs are bound to happen, but setting a plan of where I want to be seems a sensible thing to do. Of course that plan has to be achievable too. I need to work towards this just taking one step at a time, evaluating it without filtering out all the positives and just leaving the negatives, how many times do I do that in a day! Give myself a break from time to time, I can get a bit hard on myself, just allow myself some time out. Do something I enjoy. This can be hard to do when your stuck in a maze that seems to have no exit, but there must be some little thing that I can grasp at that will just give me a flicker of joy or a glimmer of satisfaction when done. Then I can give myself some praise for what I've just achieved. But what if I fail? how do I deal with that? when I already think I'm pretty useless, what if I'm made to look the fool! Ahhh, But at the end of the day who cares if you do look a bit silly , you and you alone probably. With enough experience I'm sure I will be able to pick myself up and start again and again and again....It's good to surround yourself with friends, the one's who have a positive outlook on life and a relaxed attitude, they can by your motivators when you can't motivate yourself and keep learning from others Helping others isn't a selfish trait it can be the path to enlightenment. And don't evaluate your performance against others, they're not you. You are unique compare you to you. Ponder over!
Reminders:-
Oakley Community Resource Centre, Clyde Crescent, Chelt is offering a SMART Course to Recovery on Thursday Evenings from 6pm to 8 Donation Only. The course is to help motivate you to be the person you want to be. email address is or click on pickure. [email protected]
Thank you to one of our group for mentioning this.
Donations still wanted for our table at the St Aidan Christmas Fare on 21st Nov not long now. All funds go towards the group.
Our Christmas Meal will be at The Bank House in Chelt on Monday 15th Dec from 7pm. More details to follow, but if you want me to book your place I will need a £3 deposit asap. I will be placing a booking preference behind the Bar at the ?Bank House shortly so you will be able to book yourself on if this is easier. Te menu is on the tasks and downloads page a drink and main meal is £8.99!
Hope the week is good to you all
Ruth D