Just a reminder that Ian will be taking another meeting next Monday 5th Oct from 7pm if you want to come along and join him.
I have been thinking over some of the interesting conversation we had on Monday. One of the things that was discussed was the feeling of sadness due to the loss of someone or something. When we suffer a bereavement. I, as well as many others, have had to deal with this emotion over the years. Trying to come to terms with the loss of loved ones, when they passed away. I may have mentioned this before so apologies. During the Summer I was sorting out some old photo albums, putting them in some sort of chronological order, this included photo's of my lovely children. I had stacks and stacks of photo's of my boys as babies, it took some while to get through these, but as I ploughed my way through them I noticed I began to miss my boys as babies and small children, they're 15 years now. My thoughts began to change from, "Ohoo remember when... Ahh what a laugh"... to ..."I really miss them, I want those times back, I've lost my small companions, it's not the same"... and so on. I felt a sense of loss, but why? My boys are still around, albeit they are much taller and have deeper voices, but that sense of sadness was very strong and started to affect my mood. Was I trying to keep hold of the past? Didn't I want to move on? It got to me so much all I wanted to do was get those photo's sorted and never see them again! What was all that about!
Well this experience told me that my thoughts can be an awful big influence, on my mood and my behaviour. When I had disengaged from this activity I reconnected with the present and the feelings of sadness disappeared. However the memory of this episode re ignited in my mind on Monday, when we talked about bereavement and the intense feelings of sadness we experience at the loss of something or someone. I reflected on my own experience and thought that some sort of bereavement counselling would be good, in some circumstances, to help us come to terms with our loss. However after listening to what our group said, I'm not so sure that counselling etc, to help deal with the feelings of bereavement is what is needed, as the implications of such treatment could suggest that it's a process of coming to terms and accepting that loss. When someone dies or grows up then that in itself is something we cannot change, so support, if required, would be a good idea . Or it may be a case of looking into our soul and using our inner strength to overcome some of the loses we experience in life. However when it's a situation that could be changed, especially when there may just be a solution out there waiting to be captured, which will enable us to get back what was once part of our life, then accepting it's gone and irretrievable may not be the right road to take. The hardest part is deciding when to look and when to accept.
Hope the week is good to you all.